The Seed of Worry

A likely culprit that potentially sabotages our well-being. A sneaky predator that quickly steals our minds from our ‘here and now’ senses, and sometimes our sensibility. It leads us to perceive things in ways that are many times far from reality. Yet, worry does not stop with worry. Worry carries with it an array of feelings. Nuances, if you will. Continuous worry perpetuates fear, and with enough residing fear, the need to control outcomes arises.

We all have periods where we have one foot in the past, and one foot in the future. Teetering back and forth, not really getting anywhere except the experience of the emotional and physical discomfort that greets us. Without both of our feet planted together in ‘here and now’, each decision and action is potentially affected.

Worry is the foot we choose to plant in the future.

Most of us have had these moments. Anyone that has ever had kids, or someone they care about can worry about their well-being. We are also many times better at worrying about others than ourselves. Yet, worry has a paralyzing effect. It keeps us from making rational decisions, and especially the more we perceive greater risk. Each situation is unique, and no two alike. However, worry often leads us to perceive ‘worst case scenarios’, affecting our moods and balance, decisions, and actions. As we do not live isolated lives, they will overflow to our surroundings. It is a natural thing. It is normal.

Continuous worry tends to manifest as a permanent status, and many times if gone unchecked perpetuates and develops into mindsets of fear. Fear in itself is not necessarily a negative. It can spark our innate survival tools of fight or flight. Fear in response to a realistic happening or event is a natural thing. However, if we feel this nagging sensation as a constant in our everyday lives, we are then reacting to a status where we perceive danger. Yet, that does not mean that it is actually happening, or will happen.

If we worry enough that something may happen, we can actually begin to fear that it will happen. Some become certain that it will happen. Our minds can trick us in these situations. And, since I do not believe that we can ever escape experiencing fear throughout a lifetime, I still believe that it is vital to our well-being that it be saved for true danger or threats. In order to best do this, we can benefit from becoming aware of all of those unrealistic worries, and try to minimize them. Realistically, we do not need them all.

With that one foot in the future in worry, the mind becomes extremely busy. The body answers with reactions of stress. Yet, the more we become accustomed to it, the less we notice it. In the longterm haul, it wears and tears not only on ‘here and now’ well-being, but also longterm health. As status-quo, it is draining. Our internal organs cannot function optimally with a constant flow of stress hormones. They will eventually reach states of exhaustion.

The first step is always a practice of awareness, and it does take practice. As we are beings of habit, we tend to go through the motions of everyday life, no longer noticing draining factors. In minimizing your unrealistic worries, you save your energy to be used on more positive endeavours, and you enjoy more moments of today.

As you catch yourself worrying, you may need some reassurance, uncertain if things will turn out ‘OK’. This is an issue of trust. Trust in yourself, trust in life, and trust in your closest relations. This does not mean that life will always be perfect. Nor, should we allow ourselves to be too swayed by past difficulties. We are to learn from them, but not be paralyzed by them today.

When you discover those worrying moments, explore them. Notice how your body reacts in those moments. Get to know these reactions. They are yours. You own them. Notice what they would like to lead you to do, and become comfortable with them.

Remain relaxed with an open mind, and unforseen solutions will usually present themselves. Our brains are designed to solve problems. Allow it to do its job without the muddle and meddling effect of stress hormones that only put us in a physical state of flight where the body is prodded to react without the power of thought, and reason.

Breathe deeply through those moments, and tell yourself to bring your foot home to where you are ‘now’. One step at a time. Both feet planted, and ready to stroll.

Here and now

Stay safe, and warm wishes,
Tamera Daun

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